When Betrayal Trauma Shatters Your World

by Terry Chapman LICSW, CCPS-Candidate When betrayal trauma shatters your world the result is heartbreak so intense you may wonder if you will survive. You may be familiar with the terms of trauma and Post-traumatic Stress Disorder. You might even be aware of the common symptoms of these. But there is a kissing cousin of PTSD that many are unaware of—betrayal trauma—also known as relational trauma. Dr. Jill Manning, LMFT, CCPS, explains the difference between the commonly known physical trauma and betrayal trauma: “Trauma is defined as a deeply distressing or overwhelming experience that is commonly followed by emotional and… Continue Reading This Article

What is PTSD?

Post-Traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a psychiatric disorder that typically occurs after individuals have experienced or witnessed a traumatic event such as a serious accident, natural disaster, a terrorist act, war/combat, rape or other violent personal assault. In the past, PTSD went by different names. During and right after the years of World War 1, the term “shell shock” was often used. After World War 2, “combat fatigue” was the term that signified a reaction to a high level of stress or trauma. It’s important to mention that PTSD is not experienced only by combat veterans, but can occur in all… Continue Reading This Article

4 Ways to Change Your Thoughts and Relieve Depression

Did you know that on most days, the average person has between 25,000 and 50,000 thoughts? That’s an impressive amount of thoughts. But when happens when the majority of these thoughts are negative? Imagine the impact on your psyche and your life if you had thousands and thousands of negative thoughts each day? This amount of negative thinking is a hallmark of depression. Negative or pessimistic thinking is depression speaking for you. It is the voice of depression. What many people don’t realize is that depression is manifested in negative thinking before it ever creates a negative thought itself. This is why it is… Continue Reading This Article

8 Unrepentantly Upbeat Tips Guaranteed To Boost Your Confidence

by Terry Chapman Bounce back from shame with glee. We live in a shame culture that attacks our confidence on a daily basis. Because of this we often feel flawed, unloveable, and unworthy. Shame is the demon in our closet — the monster under our beds. It prowls everywhere: at work, in our families, at school, on the Internet. Shame uses our appearance, gender, sexual orientation, religious beliefs, addictions and aging to diminish our confidence. Shaming knows no limits… Emotional First Aid Skills:   (continue reading….)    

How I Define Therapy

How I define therapy: Effective therapy is a collaboration between the therapist and client working together to identify what is preventing the client from progressing toward his/her goals. The intent of therapy is to alleviate or heal emotional pain caused by habitual thinking patterns, distorted beliefs, environmental and/or relationship stressors as well as biological factors such as illness, a lack of movement, poor diet or insufficient sleep. Every person’s situation and story is unique. I consider it a privilege to assist individuals in their personal explorations. Therapy is not magic. It is hard work—some of the most difficult, bravest work… Continue Reading This Article